John O'Donohue writes in Anam Cara (p.138) Gentle, nonconfrontational questions that pursue the truth, as you see it, can prevent a person from taking over all the power in a situation."
Asking a question has two parts. First, it can be an opportunity to state your truth, hold the space for you, and open your beliefs up for remark.
This differentiates you, shows that you are not necessarily in agreement with the room, and this is what changes the power balance. You are stepping into your own power. You are creating space for yourself and your beliefs from that which you are bing told. For me, sometimes I need small ways to engage, make space for me to think differently about something. The bravest part for me is to hint that I'm not on the same page. I've developed in such a way that the only safety is in agreeing or nodding your head while in the room, what you do later is a different story. I'm at the stage of owning a difference and attempting to feel safe while I do that.
Part two is to be open when they respond, and check in with what they are saying to see if it rings true for you, then correct or confirm your original belief. I’m suggesting a practice of digging deep and speaking your truth to a witness for no gain other than to get experience making a space for yourself. This process also allows you to be open and hold your belief up to the light and see more clearly that which you hold dear. Be Brave!
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